On the WordPress Bloganuary writing prompt a few weeks ago, they asked an engaging question. What do you complain about the most? In thinking about this, I want to share my thoughts on this matter. When we feel frustrated and overwhelmed with distress, our emotions can have us go haywire. Still, we must find a healthy way to release our feelings. It is natural to want to talk to somebody. Still, in this tense social climate where many put anger on a pedestal, how we express these feelings matters.
The Emotional Scars of Complaining
We can either complain or vent. Complaining is not the best solution because it discourages and not encourages anybody. Though complaining can seem to be a healthy emotion to relieve tension, it only leads to anger, bad-mouthing people, and frustration. Likewise, it is a sure way to ruin a relationship. It hinders personal growth because you continue to express your dissatisfaction but refuse to take action that leads to recovery.
When I listen to those who complain, I try to help this person see the situation from a different perspective. In other words, I shed some light where they only see darkness. Likewise, there is always something to be grateful for because our circumstances could be much worse. Besides, the Bible says that we will have troubles, but the Lord has overcome the world. That includes whatever we go through. 1 Thessalonians 5:18, AMP, says; in every situation [no matter what the circumstances] be thankful and continually give thanks to God; for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus.
Venting – The Wisest Choice
And I understand sometimes we need to vent. Likewise, it is permissible to talk about how you feel. Still, there is a difference between venting and complaining. People complain because they believe someone wronged them and are unhappy with how something turned out. And they only see the situation from their point of view. Though their grievances may have substance, they convince themselves they are right and the others are wrong. So, they go to whoever listens to them and jump their garbage. They are not seeking a resolution but an agreement to continue to express their dissatisfaction.
However, venting is when somebody needs to release frustration or anger and talk things out. They are not expecting a long-term means to go around the revolving door of despair. These people want to be healed and free from whatever is causing distress. Those who have come to me for counsel vent because they are looking for a solution to their problem. Likewise, I do not interrupt them as they talk, nor do I give them advice. Beloved, I take notes. Those notations become my questions. I ask questions to open their minds to the possibility of seeing it from another perspective. They are open-minded to my questions, which leads them to enlightenment. With empathy, I share in their emotions and point them to solutions to overcome their pain. Or accept that it is something they cannot change, but they can move forward.
The Road to Healing and Victory
Still, when you continue going over that problem, that is not venting. You are vomiting out your anger and complaints instead of accepting your contribution to your situation. The Word of God tells us, You must let no unwholesome word come out of your mouth, but only what is beneficial for the building up of the one in need, that it would give grace to those who hear. (Ephesians 4:29, NET). Yet, complaining is unhealthy words that incite discouragement and despair. My Friend, how is complaining encouraging or building anybody up? It does not! You are complaining, which, if not dealt with, will turn into bitterness and resentment. It is no longer a healthy topic of discussion because you refuse to listen to the truth. In other words, it is always someone's fault, and never the one who keeps complaining.
So, even when challenges are present, I am more than a conqueror. Beloved, I get to choose how I respond. Should I complain or rejoice? Should I speak about the negative or dwell on something positive? Should I feed my spirit or the flesh with its cravings to grumble and complain? I choose joy because the joy of the Lord is my strength, and God's tomorrow will be better than today. I refuse to magnify my troubles and complain and instead glorify God and rejoice.
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TIME FOR REFLECTION: Please share your thoughts and encourage someone who might need it today: my Friend, your feedback matters. Let us know how this devotional has inspired you. What do you complain about the most and how has this message inspired you to see things from a different perspective? Hit that hear and share this devotional with others.
I pray the musical selection, Power by Chris Tomlin featuring Bear Rinehart of NEEDTOBREATHE, stirs your heart and helps you use that power to express your emotions healthily.
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