Your family seemed to have it together. You didn’t even know they had problems. And suddenly, it happens, your mother or father tells you they’re getting a divorce. Confused and brokenhearted, you feel angry. You may even blame God. You wonder what the future will be like without living with both your parents you adore. A divorce separates a family, but the parents have to go on. But moving forward doesn’t mean you relinquish your responsibility to your children.
Never allow a divorce to deprive you of spending time with your children. "If anyone fails to provide for his own, and especially for those of his own family, he has denied the faith [by disregarding its precepts] and is worse than an unbeliever [who fulfills his obligation in these matters]." (1 Timothy 5:8, AMP). They need you more than ever to be a presence in their life. They grow up quickly. Before you know, your child’s entering college and planning their future. So, though you divorced, show your son and daughter how valuable they are. This is not the time to blame the other parent. And nor is it a means to say negative comments about them, either. Also, don’t use a divorce to get even by not being financially responsible for the children.
So, take responsibility for your contribution to why the marriage ended without trying to turn them against their mother or father. A divorce could cause them to struggle emotionally, spiritually, and socially. Teach through your example the importance of forgiveness and moving on to a progressive life of wholeness and victory through Christ who gives you strength. Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone[a] who sins against me? Seven times?” 22 “No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven