In this time of me, myself, and I syndrome, it can be easy to become self-absorbed and self-centered. Besides, this is what this culture advertises and stresses. Still, let’s see what the Bible teaches us. “So then, let us pursue [with enthusiasm] the things which make for peace and the building up of one another [things which lead to spiritual growth].” (Romans 14:19, AMP). It is the cultural norm to bad-mouth, belittle and humiliate others. But it’s edifying when we lift each other. We come from different cultures, ethnicity, and even families, but one thing we have in common is we are women. And this means we have much to offer that empowers others.
The world has seen enough of women fighting women. We looked at more than enough of; the jealousy and envy between sisters. There’s been far too much hatred and plotting to ruin another woman’s reputation. So, let us start a new trend. We begin this by respecting each other for our differences and not allowing such to separate us. My Sister, what makes us strong is our uniqueness. God masterly made us; in His image with different personalities, temperaments, and characteristics. “So, God created man in His own image, in the image and likeness of God He created him; male and female He created them.” (Genesis 1:27). When God looks at us, He sees His master creation, potential, greatness, and the ability to affect a magnificent change in the lives of others. It was never His intention; for sibling rivalry, jealousy, and hatred to come between us. Such actions sadden His heart.
To overcome this, we must treat people with different lifestyle choices with kindness while helping them see who they are in Christ. We don't have to accept their lifestyle choices, but we must respect them. This is so they become all God planned them to be. And I am not advocating accepting me as I am because each of us has to grow and be mature to handle each season of life. So, let’s examine the story of Sari and Hagar in Genesis Chapter 16. She and Abram had lived in the land of Canaan for ten years and she could not have a baby. When Sari realized she couldn’t have a child, she gave her husband her maid, Hagar, as a second wife. She urged him to go into Hagar, hoping to have a child through her. And he listened to the voice of Saris and Ishmael was born.
After Abram had lived in the land of Canaan for ten years, Abram’s wife Sarai took Hagar the Egyptian [maid], and gave her to her husband Abram to be his [secondary] wife. (Genesis 16:1-4). This places Abram in a very difficult position because he has to fulfill the affection of two women. Desperate times may call for desperate measures but the consequences of such may cause a season of hardship, pain, and sorrow.
Thus, this creates disharmony, anger, and jealousy between Hagar and Sari because her maid mocks her. Sari can’t allow such to go on. Therefore, she treats her harshly and demands she and her son leave. But Abram said to Sarai, “Look, your maid is entirely in your hands and subject to your authority; do as you please with her.” So, Sarai treated her harshly and humiliated her, and Hagar fled from her.” (Genesis 16:6). But it was Abram who insists she does as she pleases to her maid. He took no part in this decision. And this is the first biblical record of jealousy, anger, and bitterness between women. Beloved, here we are centuries later, and it still exists. To overcome this, we must remember who we are in Christ.
Yes, women can be bossy, sassy, opinionated, and; even manipulative. But like the Shunammite women, we can nurture and care deeply for others. She saw a need and couldn’t resist coming to the aid of Elisha. (2 Kings 4:9-10). She offered this from a sincere heart expecting nothing in return.
I have seen countless women who offer such selfless sacrifices without requesting applause. This is proof we have much to contribute to the world. We represent God and will be compassionate, kind, and sensitive. Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. 2 Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. -Ephesians 5:1-2, NLT
There’s so much more to us than bickering, fighting and drama. Still, to be more than the image displayed in films, TV shows, and the culture requires being who God created you to be. So, here’s how you can empower women.
My Sister, be the woman who speaks affirmations and hope into the lives of other women.
Shut down gossip, negative conversations, and being a busybody in the affairs of others.
Respond to jealousy with kindness, compassion, and a forgiving heart.
Work with each other instead of fighting against each other.
Be a beacon of light and help the single mother without being judgmental and condescending. Help her see she isn't alone in her struggle.
Use your voice as an advocate and speak out against violence and mistreatment of women, sex trafficking, and other injustices against us. Do this in humility and peacefully.
Mentor a young girl or teenager - Be the example that shows them they are of substantial worth.
Encourage other women to step out of their comfort zone. Help them see they have hidden abilities to make a difference, to take a leap of faith that leads to becoming who God created them to be.
Help other women, girls, and teens excel and be their best; with no competition and the need for recognition or measuring up to the standards of their nemesis.
Share your inspiring story. Be honest and candidly open and tell how God brought good out of that bad situation. Proclaim how from this horrific experience, you are now resilient, wiser, and victorious.
Use your abilities, skills, and resources and serve and help others to rise and pass the torch on to the next generation to see they are valuable.
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