The Truth that Leads to Healing - Part 2
- Vernita "Neat" Simmons
- 2 days ago
- 3 min read
Last week, I asked you if you find it difficult or easy to tell those you care about the truth. We all need to hear the truth; however, telling someone the truth when they would rather hear what they want to hear can be a challenge.
So, what do you do when someone you care for is unwilling to hear the truth? You must tell them the truth even when they do not want to listen. However, your approach is critical because you do not want to offend them. Still, knowing the appropriate time to tell the truth is just as important as telling the truth. Dear One, making unpopular decisions may cause you some grief, but their well-being is worth the risk. Whether the person comes to me for counsel or the Lord leads me to speak to them, I want them to be transparent.
Often, I seek the Lord for His wisdom and ask Him to put His words in my mouth. (Exodus 14:15-18; 4:12-15). I strive to listen without judging and jumping to conclusions. Then, I ask questions and try to help them see the situation from the other person’s perspective. Likewise, I ask if they want me to tell them what they want to hear or to tell them the truth. Even scripture is applied to open their eyes to the truth, while being gentle and kind. Sometimes, they are receptive to my reply, while at other times, they are not. However, the Lord reminds me not to take their rejection personally because they are not rejecting what I said, but rejecting His Word.
How many times did Jesus have to speak the truth to the Scribes and Pharisees, the religious leaders during that time? Often, they complained about how He taught the law. He even told the people to practice and observe everything they tell you, but do not do as they do; for they preach [things], but do not practice them. (Matthew 23:1-3, AMP).
Throughout His ministry, Christ continued to teach them the truth. He either told a story, asked them questions, or quoted a scripture. (Luke 18:9-14; Mark 3:1-6; Matthew 23:23-28). They never received what He said, but Christ never buckled under fear. They even conspired with the Herodians [to plot] against Him, as to how they might [fabricate some legal grounds to] put Him to death. And it cost Him His life, still, Jesus knew that only the truth would set them free.
Here are a few principles for those who struggle with hearing the truth that can transform their lives.
Listen with an open heart and put down your defenses. Ask God to enlighten the eyes of your heart so you may respond to the Word of God with the right attitude. (Ephesians 1:18; Acts 16:14).
Do not take what someone says personally. Set aside your own interests and consider the interests of others. Try to understand that this person cares enough to be honest with you instead of encouraging you to live a lie. (Philippians 2:4).
Accept responsibility for what you contributed to the situation. Then apologize. Do everything as if you are working diligently for the Lord. Follow through on your commitments. (Colossians 3:23).
Change the way you treat others and be sensitive to their feelings. Strive to treat others as if they are family. You would not want anybody to take you for granted, so do not take advantage of anybody’s kindness. (Romans 12:1; Matthew 7:12).
Stop making excuses and expecting different results when you continue to do things the same way. Be transformed by renewing your mind and make a conscious effort to change your ways. Dear One, promises are meaningless when you do not keep your word. Old things have passed away, and behold, all things are new. (2 Corinthians 5:17).
One should avoid using self-loathing to manipulate and gain sympathy, thus excusing their behaviors.
Regaining their trust may be a challenge, but your honesty shall impact them in ways you never thought possible. Beloved, continue to hold them accountable while encouraging them every time you see a change in their attitude. They will soon come to realize that the truth does change their lives for the better, while lying only makes them miserable. The rewards will transform their life because the truth can lead to their healing.
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